Saturday, December 25, 2021

How we ignore the obvious

 Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! If this is not your go-to, end-of-the-year celebration know I am addressing you as well.

This wasn’t obvious? 

Reading into our traditions has been waning over the decades, I’ve realized. Why is that you ask? Many reasons, some I believe are based on our need to be unique and separate while claiming to be united. Traditions and religious beliefs can be very comforting and soul seeking with great results. 

For some. What I see who are seeking individuality has somewhat gotten out of hand. 

I was watching the current Netflix movie called Don’t look Up.  This movie must be watched with an open mind for it is trying to show what our society has evolved to with technology, politics, science, beliefs, and traditions. As one article wrote about this movie’s depiction, “…about how we are blowing it, hurtling toward oblivion.”

This tells me society, people, children, preteens, teenagers, young adults, new parents, mid-parents, even us oldies, we are all guilty of ignoring the obvious. Our selfies have made us all selfish! Our individualism has asked us not to “look up” and see our world as a unified place for individual ones to exist without harming another. Human narcissism. It’s all to real thanks to the vast array of social media.

The quotes you read on all social medias can deter you into isolation for fear of becoming one of them! We are all blessed, we all have at least one best day ever, and why is it you must have thousands of followers? What does that for your ego?

Is it not obvious? You’re individualism has separated so much you can’t see right in front of you nor behind or around you, and God forbid, you look up once in a while.

It reminds me of the day I was 9 or 10 years old in the summer at a lake, I cannot remember the name off hand but I was with my mom and sister of 13 months older than I. Mom and her lady moms all sitting out on the shore of this lake while me, my sister, and a friend whose mom was also laying out by the shore were sitting on top of a small inner tube in the calm lake. Chatting and being preteens in the late 60’s. Suddenly, the girl flips back, and my sister and I do the same! How fun!! Except it wasn’t fun.

Our legs were intertwined inside the inner part of this small inner tube and as one of us flung our arms up and out to rise up, that movement would bring the other down under the water! This went on for a good 3 minutes maybe more until one of the mom’s noticed this confusion inside the inner tube on this calm lake was 3 girls trying to escape a drowning moment.

It wasn’t obvious?

No, it wasn’t. Our lives don’t lead us to obvious notions. It takes study, observation, contemplation and the like to really see what is going on around us while we go about our daily lives.

Infotainment it is called. We want to be entertained at all costs, somewhere in our evolution we created beliefs that quietly tell us sitting alone is not okay, FOMO, another belief that has aided in destroying our psyche. 

It isn’t obvious? We are losing our purpose in life and replacing it with objects, behaviors and attitudes that ignore the obvious problems surrounding us.

When facts surrounding you are skewed and opinions are ridiculed, we are in trouble, denial does run deep. 

Merry Christmas, Happy Holiday, and make your new year obvious to others not just what you see in the flipped camera screen.


Sunday, January 17, 2021

Helping Hands in the Cookie Jar

 You reach a point in your life when you should show empathy for those in need, for your neighbor...but what if it goes wrong, somewhere that you had no intention of seeing the outcome in that empathetic start?

Women silently suffer in ways like that as we are exercising empathy. We don’t say “no” because we are looked at as being a “ bitch” (bocce), a wicked person, misunderstood, or an angry being all for reaching out and caring...albeit blindly.

Yet, this act and acts along those lines make a being, a woman in kind, stronger in our hearts and in our decisions.

I failed myself many times, duh, when will I learn! Taking in a lost friend, a lost young person, a person in need. These type of people who are needy became that way through so many avenues, I certainly am not one to judge, however...... taking the time to understand and sympathize all the while, keep an eye out for yourself. 

Many good people suffer and are in need of help. Many good people suffer and retaliate onto their healer too. That’s where time and understanding calls for you, as the empathizer, to “read” the situation before blindly opening your home, your wallet, your assistance.

Don’t mistake this blog today as a denial to helping those in need, no! We all are obligated to reach out to neighbors we have experienced real life threatening need. With their approval, and that’s the key, the people in need must approve your assistance otherwise you are meddling. And then we have to turn away and rethink to understand what is needed in that situation.  

Be kind, vote for the good of people, watch your government as they distribute laws to all levels of people, follow that law to its home and SMILE...death is always around the corner.